So I wanted to share this little bit about myself.
Mum has since I was young worked with kids and families and taught others how to raise their children without raising a hand, and is currently doing a diploma in child protection which I have helped with one assignment (she keeps using DD as her observation) and it is very hard topics covered. I pretty much raise my daughter in the same style that mum has, maybe a little bit harder because I have less patience then her :) we often talk about things like how my older brother who she used to sit up at night with because of his croup and stroke his hair to go to sleep has trouble sleeping, while the other three of us find it a bit easier (don't think when four kids came along all two years apart she had quite the patience and time to stroke all our heads to sleep :))
But mum and I were at the shops with DD one night and we were talking about her boundaries, mum can't believe how far DD goes, she literally runs away in seconds. We were talking about attachment and how children with bad attachment to parents often walk away from their parents where as children with good attachment often stick close to, my daughter well, she has such good attachment that she runs away and is miles away, mum who has raised four kids and had a lot of contact with countless others couldn't believe it. DD knows that we will be right there trying to find her, but my gosh is it tiring, even mum says she is just full on.
I find it funny as I have started vocalising how the things DD does affect me. How do you deal with a 2.5yr old who is so full of energy, and secure in themself, well I've taken a leaf out of mums book and am getting down to her and talking about what is happening with her, why I don't like her running, and how it will affect me, how it would make mummy and daddy sad and upset if she got hurt or lost, and she kind of listens. When my brothers and I used to fight as kids mum always used to say use your 'I' statements, let them know how 'I' am feeling don't say you did this. I ever thought it would have worked with a 2yr old.
In mums diploma she had to do a course for a week about child development, where they talked about praising children, the woman that mum is doing the course alongside leant over to mum and said, but we learnt to tell them what they did right not just you did a good job didn't we? That's what my aim is to build my daughter up where she knows she has done a good job in herself, feeling a sense of pride and being self confident not needing external praise to 'do a good job', what's a good girl? She knows shes a good girl, she knows she has behaviour I may not like but thats it its behaviour its not her, she also knows that I love her regardless and will always do my best for her.
So now I parent like my mum, and what as a teen I always thought was goofy or dumb it actually works.
Monday, April 2, 2012
Sunday, April 1, 2012
Time to do a catch up
Wow its been along time, time to get back on track with this
What have I been doing? Well study, work (yes I have a job now at a local cinema working as a cinema attendant and meant to become a manager) and the gym, I have found a passion for the gym I never ever expected to have!
What have I been doing? Well study, work (yes I have a job now at a local cinema working as a cinema attendant and meant to become a manager) and the gym, I have found a passion for the gym I never ever expected to have!
Friday, January 28, 2011
I've decided to
Right so my goal is to hopefully over the rugby world cup work one or two nights a week.
I worked in hospitality pre DD and love it, I love seeing people working on the bar, greeting people, the social life etc and I can't imagine a more fun time to do it then over the world cup.
Problem I am overweight. I know what the industry is like, DP knows what the industry is like I need to drop weight and successfully and hopefully stay at a good weight. At the moment my goal is to get to an easy 14clothes wise. I have been that before so want to get there again. Now its time to make myself accountable and actually DO something about it instead of wanting someone to do something for me!
Question is do I put my weight on here and let everyone see or do I keep it to myself? Do I take measurements? For now I think I will keep it quiet! But who knows I might start feeling better about myself.
So what I can tell you is that the last time I weighed myself I was 9kg heavier then I am now. Don't ask me how long ago that was haha...
So it is being a mum on the fly
I worked in hospitality pre DD and love it, I love seeing people working on the bar, greeting people, the social life etc and I can't imagine a more fun time to do it then over the world cup.
Problem I am overweight. I know what the industry is like, DP knows what the industry is like I need to drop weight and successfully and hopefully stay at a good weight. At the moment my goal is to get to an easy 14clothes wise. I have been that before so want to get there again. Now its time to make myself accountable and actually DO something about it instead of wanting someone to do something for me!
Question is do I put my weight on here and let everyone see or do I keep it to myself? Do I take measurements? For now I think I will keep it quiet! But who knows I might start feeling better about myself.
So what I can tell you is that the last time I weighed myself I was 9kg heavier then I am now. Don't ask me how long ago that was haha...
So it is being a mum on the fly
Monday, January 24, 2011
I'm home alone
Well not really how often as a mum are you actually home alone? DD is here so is dad and bro2 although none of us are communicating in anyway what so ever with eachother.
DP has gone out with SILs brothers as its their last week of holidays before they go back to school they were meant to be going to the armory to play but we realised last night that they had to be 18 or have parental consent and that was going to be too hard as their guardians aren't always around and the other their grandma they don't like to ask to do things like that. So instead they have gone to the movies and going to go across the road to go gaming DPs going to let me know when they get there then DD and I will go down.
We're going to Australia well Brisbane and Gold Coast to be exact in March and I'm looking at tickets, we miss out on the tickets I found last week that were only $840 return for the three of us. I've found some that are $827 return with a different airline and it has a better return time as its at 6.50pm meaning we get back to Auck at midnight so going to plan DD will just sleep! Thats the plan anyway. So going to talk to DP again today when I see him and confirm thats the day/time then book them. I don't want to miss out, oh and I have to call the airline about car seats etc they changed their rules a little while ago which is frustrating.
Ok off to call the airline me thinks!
It never does stop when your a mum on the fly
DP has gone out with SILs brothers as its their last week of holidays before they go back to school they were meant to be going to the armory to play but we realised last night that they had to be 18 or have parental consent and that was going to be too hard as their guardians aren't always around and the other their grandma they don't like to ask to do things like that. So instead they have gone to the movies and going to go across the road to go gaming DPs going to let me know when they get there then DD and I will go down.
We're going to Australia well Brisbane and Gold Coast to be exact in March and I'm looking at tickets, we miss out on the tickets I found last week that were only $840 return for the three of us. I've found some that are $827 return with a different airline and it has a better return time as its at 6.50pm meaning we get back to Auck at midnight so going to plan DD will just sleep! Thats the plan anyway. So going to talk to DP again today when I see him and confirm thats the day/time then book them. I don't want to miss out, oh and I have to call the airline about car seats etc they changed their rules a little while ago which is frustrating.
Ok off to call the airline me thinks!
It never does stop when your a mum on the fly
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Summer Holidays
Right now its the summer holidays, we like summer, except for the fact that it is hot and sticky and muggy and its been raining so we can't open the windows or doors. At least in our room we can sleep with the fan on, which we have been.
So I know its been awhile but I've been busy DD is taking up lots of time but I love her and wouldn't have it anyother way.
DP got a promotion this week, he got offered the Venue Manager 2IC with the money! So basically the title for what he was already doing. We're happy, he's talked to them and is going to cut down his hours as well as we don't see eachother much DD doesn't see him much either and she misses him she seriously follows him round like a bad smell when he's home. She screams if you take him away from her its not fair :( so he is doing less hours as well as earning more money so we will be about the same off as we are now.
Speaking of work, if you don't know the Rugby World Cup is being held here in New Zealand this September. DP works in the CBD of Auckland so he is going to be VERY busy. He is going to ask work to pay for a hotel room as driving the half hour or so to and from work each day plus getting up about an hour earlier because we live so far away is going to be too much when he's at work for so long each day. I understand. Maybe one day I can leave DD at home and we can have a night in the room on our own? Haha wishful thinking.
It's bro#2 birthday tomorrow he's turning 25 old fart haha... yes I do know I'm 2yrs older then him. We got him a camping kit, basically put together a kit for him to go camping with ...(really you say didn't get that) so we got him plates and bowls, cutlery, frying pan, choppingboard, and quite abit more bits and bobs to put in a plastic container for him to take away wit him then when he gets home it can be washed and put away in the same container and stored. See he goes away a couple times a year and when he does he always raids the house of things like cups and frying pans we walk round the house for the next week asking where the fish slice is, or the tomato sauce, salt you get my drift. I came up with the idea and damn I think its pretty good. He goes away next Wed/Thurs too so will already get use out of it.
Ok I better go I hear a crying child for the third time tonight which is odd since she normallysleeps through yet all she wants is to have a cuddle and reassurance from mummy which I am all too happy to ablige with.
Thats all for now from this mum on the fly
So I know its been awhile but I've been busy DD is taking up lots of time but I love her and wouldn't have it anyother way.
DP got a promotion this week, he got offered the Venue Manager 2IC with the money! So basically the title for what he was already doing. We're happy, he's talked to them and is going to cut down his hours as well as we don't see eachother much DD doesn't see him much either and she misses him she seriously follows him round like a bad smell when he's home. She screams if you take him away from her its not fair :( so he is doing less hours as well as earning more money so we will be about the same off as we are now.
Speaking of work, if you don't know the Rugby World Cup is being held here in New Zealand this September. DP works in the CBD of Auckland so he is going to be VERY busy. He is going to ask work to pay for a hotel room as driving the half hour or so to and from work each day plus getting up about an hour earlier because we live so far away is going to be too much when he's at work for so long each day. I understand. Maybe one day I can leave DD at home and we can have a night in the room on our own? Haha wishful thinking.
It's bro#2 birthday tomorrow he's turning 25 old fart haha... yes I do know I'm 2yrs older then him. We got him a camping kit, basically put together a kit for him to go camping with ...(really you say didn't get that) so we got him plates and bowls, cutlery, frying pan, choppingboard, and quite abit more bits and bobs to put in a plastic container for him to take away wit him then when he gets home it can be washed and put away in the same container and stored. See he goes away a couple times a year and when he does he always raids the house of things like cups and frying pans we walk round the house for the next week asking where the fish slice is, or the tomato sauce, salt you get my drift. I came up with the idea and damn I think its pretty good. He goes away next Wed/Thurs too so will already get use out of it.
Ok I better go I hear a crying child for the third time tonight which is odd since she normallysleeps through yet all she wants is to have a cuddle and reassurance from mummy which I am all too happy to ablige with.
Thats all for now from this mum on the fly
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Wedding details
Incase I haven't mentioned it DP and I are getting married in May next year on our 10yr anniversary. It's been a long time coming!
I have so far confirmed my dress, decided on my flowers, decided on my bridesmaids and their dresses, now to see if I get them made or buy them, decided on the reception venue, hairdresser, and I think makeup (I don't wear makeup much so should be interesting!
My dress is going to have a koru pattern on it, which SIL bestfriend is going to hand paint (She's one of them arty farty types that can do that sort of thing)
Flowers are going to be different and flax, I don't want the traditional round rose bouquet I don't like it not me. (No offense)
Bridesmaids are bro3's gf (mentioned here more often then not as SIL) and a very old good friend of mine.
Dresses are going to be convertible they aren't having flowers they are getting a flax kete.
Reception is at a local bar the owner used to work at DP's work as a DJ
Hairdresser is DP's sister
and make up is SIL friend.
I am wearing as flat shoes as I can get away with lol I'm not a heel person, I get sore feet and as I don't wear shoes very often seeing as I am at home with DD more often then not and don't actually need them.
Oh DP is going to be wearing a waistcoat. I need to find the material for it as I want it to have a Polynesian pattern to go with our theme. Our invites are going to be addressed from DD and she is walking me down the aisle :)
That's all I can think of for now... Loving it, 6mths to go gosh gotta get my act into gear!
I have so far confirmed my dress, decided on my flowers, decided on my bridesmaids and their dresses, now to see if I get them made or buy them, decided on the reception venue, hairdresser, and I think makeup (I don't wear makeup much so should be interesting!
My dress is going to have a koru pattern on it, which SIL bestfriend is going to hand paint (She's one of them arty farty types that can do that sort of thing)
Flowers are going to be different and flax, I don't want the traditional round rose bouquet I don't like it not me. (No offense)
Bridesmaids are bro3's gf (mentioned here more often then not as SIL) and a very old good friend of mine.
Dresses are going to be convertible they aren't having flowers they are getting a flax kete.
Reception is at a local bar the owner used to work at DP's work as a DJ
Hairdresser is DP's sister
and make up is SIL friend.
I am wearing as flat shoes as I can get away with lol I'm not a heel person, I get sore feet and as I don't wear shoes very often seeing as I am at home with DD more often then not and don't actually need them.
Oh DP is going to be wearing a waistcoat. I need to find the material for it as I want it to have a Polynesian pattern to go with our theme. Our invites are going to be addressed from DD and she is walking me down the aisle :)
That's all I can think of for now... Loving it, 6mths to go gosh gotta get my act into gear!
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
So I just
I just went and checked on DD she's still blissfully asleep! What a miracle that never happens.
DD used to be a cat napper when she was little only sleeping on me. This proved a hindrance to house work not that I minded that too much ;) So I got tough on her she cried she slept for 1.5hrs for her first nap ever! This was when pickle was 5mths old. Lately she has been doing a 2hr sleep in the middle of the day which is great she kind of just dropped a sleep somewhere and has been sleeping really heavily for 2hrs. Well that was until this week. Mon, not so great she went to sleep after some crying throwing her blankie out of the cot and me ending up picking her up cuddling her taking the laptop to the bedroom and lying in our bed (she's still in our room as we don't have a choice in that matter) telling her to lye down and go to sleep she eventually drifted off. Mon night fast asleep in 10mins of being put down. Tues crying, her dad was home made a comment so I grabbed her and cuddled her on the couch she fell asleep for about half an hour I went to put her in her cot, she woke up with a start and screamed! Her well meaning dad took her from me but didn't do it too gently so she was beside herself wanting me. Ok I'm thinking I'll cuddle you some more your dads going to work so it should be sweet you'll go to sleep easy. No such luck try 5pm after screaming, cuddling, rocking, 2cups of water, 2bottles of milk and me finally giving in and saying here take your dummy asleep for 2.5hrs. I kept her up for an hour and put her down. She didn't complain. Dad was watching boring cricket so I went to our room... DD's still awake! Bugger. Oh maybe she'll eventually go to sleep like she normally does. Nope! I ended up cuddling her to sleep at about 10pm. 11pm she woke up with a start and a cry just as her dad got home and ended up more cuddling, her dad trying to comfort her ie lean on me and her upsetting her so she clung to me, me putting her in her bed and giving up and giving her her dummy again.
Wed was fine as we go to My Gym in the morning and she loves it and it also tires her out! Today as I said we went to Chipmunks she was tired playing rubbing her eyes then 5mins later I'm fine mum! Finally dragged her out and put her to bed when we got home. She's still there now cuddling her blankie. Only problem is its 5pm her bedtime is at 7.30pm she hasn't had dinner, but thats ok, I still need to go shopping! But I forgot to raise the drop side on the cot. Hopefully she doesn't try to climb over it although now I've said it she probably will. I'm waiting for the shout.
DD used to be a cat napper when she was little only sleeping on me. This proved a hindrance to house work not that I minded that too much ;) So I got tough on her she cried she slept for 1.5hrs for her first nap ever! This was when pickle was 5mths old. Lately she has been doing a 2hr sleep in the middle of the day which is great she kind of just dropped a sleep somewhere and has been sleeping really heavily for 2hrs. Well that was until this week. Mon, not so great she went to sleep after some crying throwing her blankie out of the cot and me ending up picking her up cuddling her taking the laptop to the bedroom and lying in our bed (she's still in our room as we don't have a choice in that matter) telling her to lye down and go to sleep she eventually drifted off. Mon night fast asleep in 10mins of being put down. Tues crying, her dad was home made a comment so I grabbed her and cuddled her on the couch she fell asleep for about half an hour I went to put her in her cot, she woke up with a start and screamed! Her well meaning dad took her from me but didn't do it too gently so she was beside herself wanting me. Ok I'm thinking I'll cuddle you some more your dads going to work so it should be sweet you'll go to sleep easy. No such luck try 5pm after screaming, cuddling, rocking, 2cups of water, 2bottles of milk and me finally giving in and saying here take your dummy asleep for 2.5hrs. I kept her up for an hour and put her down. She didn't complain. Dad was watching boring cricket so I went to our room... DD's still awake! Bugger. Oh maybe she'll eventually go to sleep like she normally does. Nope! I ended up cuddling her to sleep at about 10pm. 11pm she woke up with a start and a cry just as her dad got home and ended up more cuddling, her dad trying to comfort her ie lean on me and her upsetting her so she clung to me, me putting her in her bed and giving up and giving her her dummy again.
Wed was fine as we go to My Gym in the morning and she loves it and it also tires her out! Today as I said we went to Chipmunks she was tired playing rubbing her eyes then 5mins later I'm fine mum! Finally dragged her out and put her to bed when we got home. She's still there now cuddling her blankie. Only problem is its 5pm her bedtime is at 7.30pm she hasn't had dinner, but thats ok, I still need to go shopping! But I forgot to raise the drop side on the cot. Hopefully she doesn't try to climb over it although now I've said it she probably will. I'm waiting for the shout.
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